My friends and colleagues at Parenting Smarts, Ellen Dillon and Norman Stiles, Parenting Smarts Productions recently posted a wonderful article by Mojo Lisa A. McCrohan that was about the three things you should say to your child or children every day.
To sum up her wonderful article these were the three things that she believes children should hear from your mouth and learn from your actions everyday.
1. I see you…..
2. You matter…..
3. I love to watch you…
As a new parent, I have been thinking about this wonderful article how and if I was doing that for Ariana.
It’s amazing even at 7 weeks Ariana can tell when my attention is elsewhere. Just yesterday, I was hanging out with Ariana. My phone rang and without any warning to Ariana I took my attention elsewhere and started gabbing with a friend of mine. Within a minute or so, Ariana started to cry. It was as if she was saying to me: Don’t forget about me. I matter and if you’re going to talk to your friend at least let me know:)
She is right and I told her so.
I talk to Ariana all day long.
We talk about where she goes, what she does and what she likes and dislikes. Even though she doesn’t understand everything I am saying, she does know that I am talking to her.
Hopefully this ongoing conversation, helps her understand that she matters and that I see her.
My friend (the same one I was gabbing on the phone with) recently noted that I speak with Ariana in a conversational mode as if she is going to respond (which she really does even at 7 weeks in her own way).
Again our ongoing conversations will help her know that I see her and that she matters.
I LOVE watching Ariana play. In the past week,, she has been napping a bit less and playing a bit more. I especially love watching her watch herself in a mirror. The moment her eyes catch her own image in the mirror is simply priceless.
I also love how engaged she is with tummy time. Watch her IMG_0188
Now that i am thinking about these three ideas in my parenting, I can’t help but think about these same ideas in my teaching.
No matter what we are teaching or how we are teaching it, if we want kids to learn they must know that we see them, and that they matter.
It certainly won’t hurt either if we tell them on a regular basis what we love watching them do.
Sometime people will say to me, “Yes that is all good but The Common Core Standards changes all of that.”
I don’t think so.
Although The Common Core Standards are not perfect, most most of it is simply good teaching.
The biggest problem is not the Common Core Standards, but how people react to them.
I believe that if we keep the three ideas above in our mind while teaching, we have a better chance of kids actually learning.
I would love to hear your thoughts on these three 3 ideas (and others of course) and what they mean to both your teaching and to our parenting!
Until next time,